I gave birth to my first daughter at 21 and my second 2 years later. But then 5 years passed and I hadn't managed to have another child. My husband and I really loved our daughters and thanked Allah for the blessing he gave us, but I know how much my husband wanted a son.
We went to specialists and they found that I was suffering from endometriosis, that's why every month I suffered so much. The endometriosis had caused damage to my fallopian tubes (adhesions) and conceiving naturally was very difficult now. So we started IVF. I did 3 but to no avail. It seems there was some other problem and I couldn't get pregnant.
My doctor insisted it was just a matter of luck and we had to try again. But it seemed like a waste of time and expense. I had reached 31 and we had already spent quite a bit of money. I wanted a doctor who would tell me "it's this and you're not getting pregnant and the solution is this" instead of talking about unexplained infertility.
My husband works for a large construction company where people from different countries also work. One of them is a Greek, Mr Kostas T., with whom they had become friends. My husband told him about the problem we were facing and Mr. Kostas told him that his brother had a similar problem and finally managed to have a child with special treatment at the EmBIO clinic in Athens. The doctor there, Dr. Paraschos, had studied in England and his teachers were the pioneers of IVF, Sir Robert Edwards and Lord Robert Wilson. He insisted that if there was one doctor who could find the cause of our infertility, it would be Dr. Paraschos.
Neither myself nor my husband were excited at the prospect of travelling abroad to have IVF, but we decided to talk to the clinic and see what they would say. I called EmBIO, spoke to a coordinator and explained our problem. The girl conferred with the doctor, who asked us to send the tests we had done. She then set up an appointment in 3 days for a video call with Dr. Paraschos. Our conversation with the doctor surprised us because for the first time we were hearing some possible reasons for the failed IVFs we had had. The doctor asked us for specific tests from a geneticist and then wanted to see us in person to decide on the treatment we would undergo.
In two months we were on a plane to travel to Athens. Luckily my husband, because of his job in a large multinational company, spoke very good English and we would have no problem moving to Greece. Besides, all the details of our stay, even the taxi that would pick us up from the Athens airport had been arranged by the clinic.
I don't want to go into details about our examinations, which after all had many medical terms and I didn't understand them all. But it seems that there was a defect in my husband's genes that was causing problems for the embryos and that is why they were unable to survive and develop. The problem was mainly affecting the female embryos and so we had to create male embryos that had been tested to ensure that they would not carry the same condition. There was a solution and that was IVF with microfertilisation, prenatal testing and gender selection.
I felt strange when I heard about sex selection. Was this allowed by our religion or would we be committing a great sin? My husband insisted that as long as it was done for medical reasons it was not "haram" and allowed by Shariah. I wanted to hear from someone other than my husband, and I called our Imam. He too said the same things as my husband, so I had no objection to proceeding with the treatment.
We had a great time in Athens and managed to take a short trip to Hydra, which is such a picturesque and special island. These three days were necessary to relax a bit before the crucial day of the embryo transfer. From there, things went from there...
Today it has been 12 months since the day we left Athens to return home and I am breastfeeding my little man, Hamza. Both my husband and I are overjoyed and praise Allah for bringing Mr. Kostas and Dr. Thanos Paraschos our way. May Allah reward them with good.
